Sexual Relations & Married Life
By Shaykh Musa Karmadi
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In the Name of Allah, Most Beneficent, Most Merciful FOREWORD
It is only through the assistance of Allah Almighty that this concise booklet has been prepared. It is no grand quality of my own, for all that I have done is compiled relevant parts of the following books: Al Hadiyyatu Lin Nisaa, Aadaab e Mubaasharat, Deeni Dastarkhaan, Tibb e Nabawi, Jadeed Science, Zabt e Wilaadaty Ihyaa Uloomid Been and various books of Hadeeth.
The driving force behind my compilation of this booklet is the fact that in the past ten years, from the
experiences of the Shar’i Grievances Panel
(Panchaayat) which falls under the Hizbul Ulama UK, it was found that most marital problems were a direct result of either the ignorance or the disregard of these important rules by the parties involved.
Thus it was decided that an explicit booklet in which the etiquettes of the first night of marriage, the rules of sexual relations during menstruation, the dangers of homosexuality and masturbation etc as well as the correct manner of sexual relations be compiled. By doing so it is hoped that our youth be educated regarding the Shari rules of the above and in turn save themselves from both the religious and health hazards.
“And my success and acceptance comes only from Allah” Al Qur’aan – Surah Hud I am grateful to Mufti Umar Farooq Saheb, who is the Khateeb of the Jamie Masjid of Clapton and Sheikhul Hadith of Darul Uloom London, who has read the entire Urdu script of this book and written a note of endorsement. He took great trouble in going through the manuscript and providing the references.
I am also thankful to Mufti Ismail Musa Menk of Harare, Zimbabwe who is a graduate of the Faculty of Shariah of the University of Madinah Munawwarah, and a graduate of the Iftaa Department of Darul Uloom Kantharia – Gujarat, India, who translated this booklet into simple English.
May Allah reward them abundantly, and grant them increase in knowledge and good deeds, Aameen. I hope that this booklet will be a means of benefit and education for its readers.
(Maulana) Musa Karmadi, 1424H
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By Mufti Umar Farooq Saheb Luharwi – DB Sheikhul Hadith Darul Uloom London
All praises are due to Allah Lord of the worlds and blessings and salutations be upon the leader of Messengers and his family and his companions, thereafter…
Islam is the final religion. Such a complete religion it is that after it neither is there anticipation of another religion, nor is there need for any other message. It is a universal, all encompassing and everlasting religion that has guaranteed the fulfilment of the needs of all people.
The feelings of people, their inclinations, needs, necessities, natural instincts singular as well as
collective, inter-family as well as inter-community (social), and every aspect of life falls under certain rules and regulations of this religion. No sphere remains without Divine guidance.
The rules governing social conduct include an important part on marriage and sexual relations. How then would it be possible for one to omit giving importance to its rules and regulations? Islam is a moderate religion, in line with the natural instincts and needs of man and fully balanced. Therefore the rulings on sexual issues are also such, admitting that it is natural. Thus the instincts placed within the heart and mind of man are all by the Wisdom of Almighty Allah. This natural sexual instinct with all its types, temperaments, conditions and stages in the life of man is one deep reality. Islam has never called for the destruction or abolition of this instinct, neither through celibacy nor sainthood.
If the fulfilment of the desire as result of one’s sexual nature and inclinations is within the limits of the Shariah then it has not been classified as forbidden (Haraam). The condition is that the fulfilment of sexual desire at any cost, must not be the sole aim of a person. One must maintain moderation free from both extremes and free from animalistic behaviour. Similarly, unclean, dirty and silly means of fulfilling this desire should not be resorted to. The correct method of fulfilling one’s natural sexual desires within the framework of the Laws of Almighty Allah is known as Nikah. Islam has placed detailed rules in this regard and commanded mankind to obey those rules in order for man to be raised above other creatures.
This booklet is a clear attempt, with boldness, to highlight these rules and regulations. It has been compiled by a great^well known and respectable scholar of Deen, Maulana Musa Karmadi Saheb (MZ) (Secretary General of Islamic Educational Trust, UK). He has brought together verses of the Qur’aan, sayings of the Prophet (peace be upon him), the pious and learned, the doctors and those of experience. In the foreword his mention of the resource books and his appeal to seek clarification from the Muftis (Jurists of the Shariah Law) regarding detailed issues such as artificial fertilization, have added weight to this booklet. The simple language of this booklet and use of common terminology has made it easy for the
ISLAM IS A RELIGION WHICH TEACHES US ETIQUETTES OF EVERY FIELD IN LIFE. THESE DAYS MUSLIMS ARE SO SHY OF ASKING THE RULINGS OF DEEN IN REGARDS TO SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP WITH ONE’S SPOUSE & HENCE INDULGE INTO SO MANY WRONG & ISLAMICALLY UNLAWFUL PRACTICES AS INFLUENCED BY THE WESTERN MEDIA OR UNEDUCATED GOSSIP AMONG THEMSELVES WITHOUT CONSULTING AN AALIM DIRECTLY OR THROUGH ITS WRITINGS. THIS BOOK IS UPLOADED BY KEEPING IN MIND THOSE KIND OF PEOPLE. HENCE, AN IMPORTANT & MUST READ BOOK FOR EVERY TO BE MARRIED & MARRIED ADULT.
By Shaykh Musa Karmadi
STRICTLY FOR ADULTS ONLY